Marriages becoming whole.
He has given us hope. He has shown His love, mercy, and grace once again. He has shown me once again that if I take one step towards Him, He will take an infinite amount towards me. He has blessed me with breakthrough in our marriage and the blessing of witnessing breakthroughs in other marriages. He has lifted a huge weight off of my shoulders in that I do not have to perform to be loved by Him or my wife. He has shown me I can be open, honest, vulnerable, transparent and able to connect emotionally with my wife, which I have never been able to do in 27 years.
This was the first time I’ve been with a group of men and women of this size where it seemed everyone was ready and willing to be completely honest, transparent, and vulnerable while in a very broken and desperate place. The safety of this place was established the first night by the powerful testimony of our facilitators Paul and Sue. The Spirit Connections were amazing and powerful to everyone in the room and I wish I could have seen even more of them. It will take a lifetime of keeping these new principles a priority and replacing them for our old methods that didn’t work, but I am determined to crush the enemies tactics and the generational curses that have plagued our families for so many years.
This loving community ministered powerfully to my wife and I over a 3.5 Day weekend. The safety and vulnerability helped me to feel and express compassion for the wounding I had brought to my wife. I know that God is giving us the “do over” we need. We are starting fresh. The real me can come out of hiding into fellowship with my wife.
There were several things that God has done through my time here. The awakening of the Holy Spirit and His power in lives brought healing on many levels. It gave me experience, real hands on experience to use the tools. I am a “don’t tell me” type person, rather a “let me try and experience it” person. It gave me hope in my marriage, an answer to years of prayer and a chance for a “do over”. A chance to see the true self of my husband come alive, and a forgiveness set free in me. Thank you Paul and Sue.
On the evening with the face to face deeper intimacy activity that came after several rounds of reconciliation, my husband and I held hands and gazed into each other’s eyes for the first time in ages. The music thrummed in our hearts, and as our souls reconnected, I did a double take. Suddenly my husband was my “19 year old groom” and held my hands. His eyes were twinkling. He smiled with the youthful innocence of a track runner, kite flyer, and smooth dancer! In laughter mixed with tears, I had an “aha” moment: my husband, my first original husband was back. The Holy Spirit’s life is in this moment! He is the fountain of youth!
Thanks to the dedicated prayers of the intercessors of those praying for the workshop we had some breakthrough the day before the conference and we started talking again and arrived feeling less like each other’s enemies. During the conference our feelings deepened into feeling like friends again. The Lord gave us insights that helped blow away decades of misunderstanding. We recovered our feeling of “team” and gained an appreciation for our different but complementary skill sets. We’re ready to take on the world again!
I came to the workshop expecting God to move in my marriage. I didn’t quite know how but I knew He had a plan.The Lord used this time to erase the scars. He has allowed trust in my wife to be fully restored to me again. I have seen burdens lifted from my wife which has allowed joy back into her heart. Hearing the testimony of others has once again shown me that our problems are not isolated. The Lord has opened the door to nurturing relationships with other believers with like minds. God gave my wife and I a prophecy about what is coming next in our journey. He pointed us in a direction of service. I look forward to seeing God cement our legacy with our children. During the dreaming with God, we both had the same vision. More to come...
Holy Spirit has breathed life back into me, and into our marriage. God has dug deep into my soul, and pulled out things that were buried and rooted in. Those strongholds are now gone and replaced with truths of God and how He sees me, how He cares for me and us in all ways, spiritually, emotionally, and sexually. We are victorious and dangerous in Jesus! The Lord showed us the same vision for our marriage, our home: a house of hospitality with other couples there, we saw us loving them and loving each other deeper and stronger than we ever have before.
He met us here! In summary- He gave us hope and tools. Holy Spirit came and spoke to me and that He has more of us, not just for others but for us! It’s from that union, He revealed my joy will be complete and full as I am connected with my wife, lifting her to fullness as well. Hope came because I believe now that “we can” and that “she will” also. Hope came because I am not alone and I have resources. Hope came as I connected with the Holy Spirit and was Spirit-led, hope cames because I learned that the enemy carries spirits of influence that I can resist and are not my true character and identity. I have tools now, nailing, breaking, renouncing, and exchange with Father! Hope came because I heard what she sees in me! All these tools are simply God’s answer to partner with Him so my wife and I can truly be one and wonderful! We are truly grateful to you two, Paul and Sue.
I came with a spirit of doubt for what God could do for my marriage. God has replaced doubt with hopefulness and anticipation as I look to my future with my husband. I’m in awe of the words that are coming out of my husband’s mouth about what moving forward is going to look like. Like Sue shared on the first night about the Japanese technique of repairing bowls or plates with gold, I now see the value that my husband has. I looked up a video on this repair technique and saw the long tedious process of gluing, sanding, filling and chipping before the gold can be laid. But the breakage and mending are all honest parts of our past, and this workshop has taught us that should be celebrated, not hidden. We are more beautiful for having been broken.
This workshop revealed how old issues are affecting me, affecting us today and it showed me how my sinful responses to those issues has hurt my wife. We were provided tools to fight and win over all of this, giving us freedom from what was hidden. Doors were opened to new hope and dreams that God can plan with us together. My eyes were opened to the role my Maker is to hold between me and my wife everywhere, including during sexual intimacy. God is much bigger to me than he was Wednesday. Power, authority, presence, love, and plans, are all bigger. God did not change, I have been changed!